Balancing the yin and yang within with the yin and yang outside

Some time ago I wrote an article about how we are mirrors and reflections of eachother. You can find the initial article here. The main aspect I was trying to pin-point was how each person we interact with reflects something for us and we reflect something for them and sometimes the interaction becomes difficult because we reflect things which, although they are a part of us, we don't want to accept and most of the times we don't even understand this, we say it is the other when in fact it is always you.

To trully understand this is so difficult that sometimes the only way to get to the understanding seems to be to run away on a mountain/island and leave in seclusion for at least a month. But who does that right?

So we are lucky if we manage to comprehend at least 10%. The good part is that the universe always brings a little bit of help, it is only important to realize the one main truth - we are mirrors.

“And God said “Love Your Enemy,” and I obeyed him and loved myself.”

~Kahlil Gibran

Photo artist: Lilia Osipova

If you want to learn more about what the Essenes philosophy was on this, you can also watch the video below:

Practically what the Essenes say is that you need to do a little bit of backtracking to trully understand a situation. I work with programming languages and this might help me a bit, although I don't believe it is a prerequisite or sufficient. What is trully required is: to live from your heart and be an observer of your thoughts, emotions, feelings, actions and reactions.

It is a liberation in the end to realize that loving your self is in fact loving everyone else and that judging others is in fact judging your self, giving to others is in fact giving to your self and the other way around and hurting others is in fact hurting your self and the other way around. Yes, I know it is mind blowing and theorethically might even sound very easy, practically.. we might be able to get there in.. 1000 years? But it is the trying that keeps us close to that moment and what this life is all about. So try and try again. And for the moment we live in, forgive yourself for judging, hurting yourself or others but just try as much as possible to push your limits, little by little, and it is very important to understand. Keep your circle and expand little by little only the way it feels right to you. We want harmony, not disaster.

One year ago I wrote an article on Spring Equinox and how this is the time of acknowledging and trying to bring balance between our yin and yang, masculine and feminine energies. You can find it here if you want to re-read it. I am mentioning this as well as I have understood the deeper link between the first article and the one on Spring Equinox. In the article about Spring Equinox I have talked about how important it is to have the yin and yang, feminine and masculine energies balanced within, because no matter if you are a man or a woman you have both energies, one being more predominant.

Ok, so you acknowledged it and you even found the right balance for you and you even manage to find someone balanced in the right way and in-sync. Everything is perfect at first, magic is all around, I mean real magic, but life implies continuous change, continuous re-synchronization. And there is another change, when two people interact at a deeper level, they transfer energies from one to the other, back and forth until a balance is made or not. And don't forget, it is about balance in a changing world. You know how hard it was for you to find your balance? Add another person with their own energies, put a ball between you and try to keep it in balance while you still do your daily tasks and you find your self changing and the other changing. I don't know about you but I, at least sometimes, just want to run away.

And there is one more thing, in the mirrors article I told you how we reflect parts of the people we connect with and I also said that only when you accept yourself fully and everyone else who held a special place in your heart, you will really find true love. That is true, but here is the theory, there is the practice. When you are in a relationship, as much as you want there aren't only two people. In the man in front of you, you will also find all the others before with their good parts and their bad parts. And in the woman before you, you will find also all the other ones before with the parts you appreciated and liked and the parts you have not yet understood or accepted. It's scary, I know. You want to run away, but there is no running away from yourself, your happiness and what trully is for you to accept, understand and transcend. The solution? Enjoy it! Push forward and stay true! There is a balance in the end.

And below is a bachata love song: